What Is Up With Me? My Life Is So Screwed Over I Just Need Some Advice.?
Question by BBallMan: What is up with me? My life is so screwed over I just need some advice.?
Ok- first off. Im in love with a douche. Ugh. Ok. Well he is just a bad news drugee. He smokes anything and everything (were not 18 so it illeagal so smoke) hes a drinker. Pshh. But still I am IN LOVE with him, hes just so irristible…uh. But any time we meet I have to lie to everyone, and so does he. UGH!
2nd- I think Im depressed, I found my old blog and playlists i miss how I used to be, a breakup used to just brush right off my shoulders like I could take anything, i was invincible, i had tons of friends. But Ive changed…everything about me. Im not who I was. I don’t know who I am anymore.
3rd- My parents are trying to rule my life! Ugh. Im so upset with everything. My grades are slipping. Im just struggling and everything else.
4th- MORE guy problems. My ex is causing so much turmoil in my life! AHH!
5th- I am disappering behind masks and lies. I used to be so down to earth I used to fight for others, and things like world hunger and everything else…but now..i am guy crazy, physically involved with my best guy friend..and things are crashing around me.
WHAT has happened.
P.s. nother problem. I do c a therapist but i feel like i cant trust her to not tell my mom my problems so I cant talk to her like I WANT TO.
Best answer:
Answer by Niels
It’s called hormones, live with it.
Answer by ironbuddy
Dealing with these issues as you’ve raised them:
1] You say you love him but it’s worth asking yourself the question whether he really loves you as much as you love him. The reason I say that is because his life is clearly out of control but if he loved you then he wouldn’t want to see you hurt by being dragged down into the same addictions that will eventually destroy his life; in fact if he loved you then he’d straighten himself up so that he could give you the sort of life that you deserve. You also need to look hard into your own values to understand why dysfunctional bad ass guys are so irresistible and to ask yourself how your life is going to be 10 years from now if you keep on hanging out with guys like that.
2] You could well be depressed but also don’t forget that you’re going through a lot of confusing transitions in your life as you try and define your own life and your values and this is probably why you feel you don’t know yourself. If you are depressed then you must get professional help as soon as possible because otherwise you are likely to try and deal with your depression through drink or drugs and then you’ll just add problems of addiction and criminal behaviour to your situation and you’ll have even more to despair about.
The other thing to remember is that if you start to get involved with drugs then you’re going to be hanging out with low life and criminals who, at best, are going to do you no good and who, at worst can be intimidating and physically dangerous to you.
3] Yes, there are parents out there who are too controlling and don’t want you to grow up or be like your buddies (mine were like that) but don’t make the mistake of thinking they’re trying to control your life when all they’re really trying to do is guide you away from danger and destruction.
The other thing is that maybe you should let them have more say in your life because, by your own admission, you’ve not done a great job of running it yourself lately.
4] Maybe your ex still has some affection for you or maybe he doesn’t, if he does then maybe he can see the destruction you’re doing to your life and that’s why he keeps hassling you. If he doesn’t love then maybe he’s just become dependant on you the same way you’ve become dependant on your bad *ss boyfriend. Ask yourself if you’re going to go through life being emotionally dependant on other people all the time or are you going to develop some emotional toughness and carve out for yourself the life and the friendships you really want and deserve.
5] You are certainly disappearing behind masks and lies and that’s because your having to chose between your family and friends on the one hand and the bad guy on the other and your having to cover up the tensions between the two life styles with deception; you’re not only deceiving your friends and family (who probably see through it anyway) but more importantly you’re deceiving yourself by thinking that a guy like that is ever going to give you the affection and the future that you deserve. Do you honestly know of anyone whose life has ever been improved by addiction and emotional dependency – if you do then maybe it will work out OK for you but if, like me, you’ve just seen peoples lives destroyed time after time by those things then just summon up all your courage and cut loose from this guy, his friends and his values while you still have the chance.
End of sermon…
Good luck.
Ironbuddy
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